It is amazing in this country how people look at you like your a freak if you tell them you co-sleep. In fact I get more comments from people who think I am some granola freak for co-sleeping with my child. Most people don't here in the US. So if I want to post something as a PRO for co-sleeping I will. I could list at least two dozen comments I have received in the last year from people who are uneducated on the pro's of co-sleeping so if my article convinces someone to co-sleep WONDERFUL! If you don't or did or hate it, that is just fine for you and your family. However this is my blog.... and if I have an opinion about something I will most likely post it.
I don't stop and worry about what someone will think about something I post. I post about what I am reading or thinking. I barely have the energy to remember what is going on in my life let alone remember who is or isn't co-sleeping in all of the blogs I read. Nor am I trying to make someone who chooses not to co-sleep feel bad. I don't generally think hmmmmm.... what can hurt peoples feelings... lets post THAT!!!! I read an article that did a study and I was excited because what it validated HOW I FEEL about co-sleeping! SO if you don't feel that way fine... If you disagree tell me, if you have a different opinion I would love to hear it....I would LOVE to debate. To assume I am trying to make you or anyone feel bad is just silly.
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First off, I do not think that you are a freak for cosleeping. I think cosleeping is a very natural and healthy thing to do. It just appears that the article is saying that if you don't cosleep, your child will be defective. If I understand it correctly, the article is basically saying that children who don't sleep with their mothers need a security object. And children who have a security object have an insecure relationship with their mother. Maybe it is just me, but that sounds like a scare tactic to get people to cosleep.
With that said, I think it is wonderful that you cosleep. Actually, I think more people should cosleep - especially when you have a high needs baby. But, I do not think that people who choose not to cosleep are damaging their children.
Nowhere did I say YOU think I am a freak. I said most people do not understand co-sleeping which is why I post co-sleeping stuff on MY blog. Also it does not say anything about DEFECTIVE children, it simply refers to the fact children who do not co-sleep form strong bonds with objects for comfort> The problem you have with the article is the language. Which is fine.
I am no longer going to discuss this with you. You are very defensive and take things not directed to you personally. If I used your logic I wouldn't be able to discuss breastfeeding because it would hurt formula mothers feelings, nor discuss being a SAHM because working mothers might take offense. I cannot censor myself 100% to please everyone... what would be the point of me blogging then>???
While I don't mind differences of opinion, nor opinions of others at all, in fact I WELCOME them, your comments insinuate I am being hurtful and mean by simply posting my opinions, or articles I find interesting on my blog.
This is the second time you have caused me grief in my blogging world and I am not at a point in my life to have the energy to deal with it. This is actually a sanctuary for me right now and basically your stomping on my rainbow.
I wish you all the luck in the world.
I just wonder why anyone else cares if we co-sleep. If they don't, fine. None of my business. Yes, I believe it probably is what virtually all children would prefer if they knew what they were missing, but each family comes to their own decisions. I co-slept with my mother until I was four and I consider myself lucky. Perhaps that's why I still don't prefer to sleep alone. I wonder how many adults would prefer to sleep alone rather than with their partners.
What a coincidence that I just followed your blog from Sara's and I had just blogged yestersday about people owning their guilt...
http://paxye.com/blog/guilt/
We love to co-sleep and I really do think that it is important in the relationship and for ease of breastfeeding and well... ease of night parenting.
I wasn't allowed to co-sleep and I remember wanting to and feeling rejected by my mom... My DH co-slept until his sister was born when he was 8 so he was not at all willing to have our first little one sleep by himself...
All these pro-co-sleeping comments are great! It's nice to hear pros instead of cons! I think as adults thats one big plus of finding a partner or dog or cat. No one WANTS to sleep alone, live alone, die alone. And by meeting those wants (which I believe to be needs) we are creating a very special bond with our children, spouse, or special furry child! I get so tired of the comments on moms who let their children sleep with them of being lazy or not allowing them their own space. Or the other they will not be strong individuals if you don't separate yourself from them. That's just bull shit out of the mouths off uninformed people who just want to shoot off what they think is right. I don't go preaching co-sleeping and to each his own but it would be nice to have the same treatment if I voice our decision.
If you aren't already on this forum it's a great support resource for all AP parents:
http://www.attachmentparenting.org/forums/
First of all, it is your life and the life of your child. And you are allowed to do anything what wil.l be better for both of you.. Bringing up children is an individual process. There is nothing bad with co-sleeping but as soon as you feel that your child has become older, you will have to stop.
Hi there
I found your blog accidently while looking for articles on cosleeping for a psychology essay. When i first started researching i found alot of articles against cosleeping, but digging a bit further there are also alot regarding the pros of it. I am a mother of 4 and love cosleeping with my children...the oldest 2 are 13 and 14 now but my youngest are 4 and 6 and although it can get squishy in bed i wouldnt have it any other way. it is a joy to wake up to their little faces every morning and i believe that if there wasn't such a stigma around the practice then most women would cosleep
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