Just three more minutes...

Every time I ask Kya to do anything she doesn't want to do, she will ask for 3 more minutes. "Just three more minutes mom!" Preeeaasseee JUST THREE MORE MINUTES!"

My parenting Style:

1.I have no idea where this three more minutes came from, or why three is the magic number. She hates to be side blinded. If she is playing I need to give her a 5 minute count down. As long as I give her a count down the world it all roses. It is when I say, ok lets go time for bed... or ok no more TV... or put that down and lets get in the car. She looses it. I really don't blame her. If Karl did that stuff to me, I would be all like.. wooaaaaaa dude.. .I am busy.... give a girl some warning alright!  SO even though YES i am the mom, and YES what I say goes, I do give her the common courtesy of a warning, when and if it is possible.

2. I also like to give Kya choices.  For example if Kya is throwing a fit and refusing to  go to bed, or pick up a toy, or stop putting her feet in her sisters face, I always give her two choices.

choice sets:

a) you can either walk to the bed room and smile and read books

or

b) you can cry, kick, and scream as I carry you to bed and get no books

(she always picks A once I was carrying a sleeping Kena and Kya did the dead weight thing uggggg)

Choice sets:

a) you can either pick up the toy and put it where it belongs

or

b) mommy can pick it up and throw it away

(she ALWAYS picks A... because I tell her if you treat your toys like trash then so will mommy... to date I have thrown away a barbie, a baby doll, a necklace, and a pair of shoes (dress up dollar store)... also if she throws her toys while she is mad... like at me or something I throw it away. If you throw it you don't care if it breaks so I will throw it away.  After I threw away her Cinderella doll she runs to pick stuff up if I ask.  I am all about sacrificing a 20 dollar item for a lesson learned.  Also she NEVER throws anything at me, those dress up shoes were a lesson learned quickly. She is allowed to be frustrated but we don't hit people we love, especially with objects!)

Please note.. I do not yell or scream at my daughter, my voice is loud as it is I personally do not need to really yell and I don't think it does any good.  I do however discipline and reprimand gently...with the occasional eye roll and holy poop mutter... common I AM HUMAN! I also do not ever under any circumstances ever ever ever.... never ever believe in corporal punishment, spanking or swatting, or anything!  I also don't believe people who say their kid needs it.  I believe it is a control and anger issue and done out of frustration.  utter frustration.  I believe in "persuasion through love" and hitting does not come from love. 

Now the putting her feet in her sisters face? I am at a loss.... I mean I explain in over and over and over but....but it is like her feet and kya's face are two magnets lol... I guess time will only tell. I mean she is only almost 3 in a week!

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